Posted 1:23 PM by Blah blah

Dumping Beautiful Women (Relationships)

Boy, I have SO been there! Guys, do NOT let a woman's beauty mesmerize you into tolerating lousy behavior or treatment. It's just not worth the pain.

5 Reasons to Dump a Woman (AskMen.com):

1- She's not a giver
2- She has no integrity
3- She's inflexible
4- She's a complainer and a nag
5- She's not fun to be with

See the article for details.

Here's an addition to yesterday's post:

Women Who Use Men (AskMen.com):
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Two types of women

The Mercenary differs from The Queen Bee in that once she has picked out her mark -- a man who will provide her with enhanced social status, unlimited financial resources, and a life of leisure -- she will then give her body to him as her part of the bargain -- but not her heart. She must, however, convince her victim that she has fallen in love with him. That's a crucial part of the con.

What distinguishes The Mercenary from The Queen Bee, is that there is, no matter how hollow and meaningless it may be, some tangible form of reciprocity given for the goodies that she gets. She does get intimate with her victim. (Although once a contract has been signed, i.e., marriage, the frequency of the intimacy often diminishes substantially.)

The Queen Bee, on the other hand, who is the subject of today's article, usually has a collection of several different men who provide her with goods and services and to whom she never gives more than a peck on the cheek. Her guy pals get to be her butler, banker and/or Mr. Fixit, but none of them ever get to have a real relationship with her.

This tempestuous temptress plays dumb and acts as if she has no idea that the various guys in her orbit are attracted to her, and are waiting and hoping that she will choose them to be her boyfriend. If she's ever asked about her relationship with one of them, she'll say, "Oh, he's a really great friend." When translated into English from Womanese, this means: "He's one of my stooges."

The sick thing is that this is all perfectly fine with Ms. "Me." As far as she's concerned, they're all lucky enough to be spending time with her, and they deserve to pay for the privilege. They give. She takes. That's the relationship. She keeps 'em coming back for more by being as warm and sweet as sun-drenched honey on the outside. But her heart is as cold as a week old cadaver.

One could argue that these guys who follow her bidding like indentured servants deserve what they get (or to be more precise -- what they don't get). But as my Cousin Sal "The Fish" Love would say, "In the game of love, there are no victims, only volunteers."

Don't let her looks fool you

The problem is that these fellows have allowed themselves to be hypnotized into believing that their investment in time, money and energy is winning them points and helping to build the Queen Bee's romantic Interest Level in them. But the opposite is true. The more hoops these guys jump through, the more the Q.B. chuckles with contempt for them. (Some of them wake up and save themselves from more abuse after only a few months of servitude. Others go on for years in a state of ignorance and denial like living zombies.)

The way to deal with this dangerous darling is to never get involved with her to begin with, no matter how beautiful she may be. Walk away from her the way you'd walk away from a losing crap table in a Vegas casino.