Posted 11:00 AM by Blah blah

What Do Women Want?
How to Show Them How to Ask for What They Want?

On Rice Bowl Journals, I added this to the topic What Do Women Want? Do YOU have anything you want to add or say?

Al Sug, you say you are engaged but still clueless about what women want? How did that happen?

Here are some of the main things women keep saying they need but are not getting:

1. Someone who truly listens to and tries to understand them. Someone who resonates with and responds to what they say.

2. Someone who is reliable and there for them. True friendship and companionship. A feeling of security and trust. A place of refuge from the cruel world where they can be totally open and vulnerable.

3. Emotional support. A cheerleader for whatever they are passionate about, even if you secretly think it's silly.

4. Someone who makes them feel special, appreciated, and unique in the world. Someone who likes how they look when they first wake up, with no makeup and tousled hair.

5. Someone who's physically compatible, in all meanings of the phrase.

By the way, I don't think this list is just for women. All men want this too! Also:
6. Someone to make them feel all woman (and feel more feminine). For men, vice versa (feel more masculine).

Al Sug, why don't you show your fiancée this discussion and let HER tell you what she wants and needs?
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It's easy to know what they want. To develop the capacity to DO it for them, time after time, is MUCH harder.

Cindy replied: think raymond's got the perfect answer. and he's speaking from a man's perspective too! see, there *are* guys who get it. :)
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Aw, THANK YOU, Cindy!

It's not hard (I think) to know what women want. A more useful topic for men is

How to DO What Women Want? and how to do it reliably in a way that satisfies them?

or

How to Help Women Ask for What They Want in a Way That Men Can Understand?

Now THAT'S tough. For instance, women sometimes expect us to read their minds and say something vague like: "Why do you never help around the house?" And you say: "Well I did this and this already. And you never asked me to help with [insert chore here.]" And they say: "Well duh, you should have known. Do I have to show you EVERYTHING?"

How do we persuade or teach women how to make their needs known clearly, just when they need them, and not keep quiet and build up resentment until it suddenly explodes?